war was an inevitable situation in a country that rendered thousands of dead. Wives of the martyrs and they children are a product of war that have lived with and understood these epitomes of sacrifice and martyrdom. So they are who can be the first who claim an upper hand in this field is this multitude in present society. But the research has shown that martyrs’ wives often secretly attended the social gatherings and many of them are afraid of being asked about being a martyr’s wife. The question here is that while they have accompanied with their husbands and do this with altruism why today not only don’t they make any effort to present part of the memoranda of martyrs, neither do they preach their lifestyle, but also at circumstances they deny being a member of the great family of martyrs and prefer to be unknown. Interview with these wives and data found from previous work on the issue reveals facts showing that change in lifestyle of society and also in their lifestyle, mismanagement in the part of authorities in early establishment of fund for martyrs (bonyade shahid) and having a trial-and-error policy in this fund has led to social … to this culture.