2011/08/08 - 09:34
Navideshahed Exclusive Interview with Salma Babaei, Martyr Babaei's Daughter:
O' My Father, My Intimate, Sweeter than My Life
Navideshahed: She was 11 years old when her father was martyred. Still the sorrow of losing father can be felt in her voice. She expressed a poem about her father as follows: “My father, you are my companion and sweeter than my life, where did you go? Why did you go?”
Salma Babayee, the daughter of martyr Abbas Babayee in an exclusive interview with the reporter of Navideshahed regarding how she was aware of her father’s martyrdom said: “My mother had tripped to Haj (Pilgrimage to Mecca), so I and my brothers had stayed in our grandmother’s house. Suddenly one of the friends of my father telephoned and he said: “Do you have any news about your father?” I said no! I called the workplace of my father and I asked them to tell me where my father was. They told me: “Don’t be worried, your father is wounded only”. All the members of family got worried after hearing this news. I called them once again. This time they told me that my father has gone somewhere to do a commission! My grandmother got unhappy and she picked the receiver and she said: “What do you mean? You say different things when we want you to say about Abbas Babayee! So where is Abbas? After that my grandmother asked the man to swear and say the truth, within a few minutes, the man had told my grandmother that my father was martyred. That day was a sad day for us. All the family members were crying in tears and they were beating themselves due to sadness.”
She added: My uncle had worn black clothes and I was beating his chest by my punches and asked him to change his black clothes, but he was only crying in tears. Even when they informed us that the body of our father is mortuary, my brother ran toward to the refrigerator to search if the body of our father is in the refrigerator, he was a little boy and still he did not know the difference of mortuary and refrigerator.
The daughter of martyr Babayee notified: Martyrdom of father and being away from mother was really difficult for us at the time. In fact this issue reminds me of bitter things. A night before being sent for a duty, he kissed me during midnight and he left me. I opened my sleepy eyes and again closed my eyes. I never forget that moment. Our mother had tripped to Mecca to be a pilgrim of God house. In 1987, the bloody attack of Mecca occurred. When my father was martyred, they informed us that Imam Khomeini has demanded that the body of father not to be buried until the mother comes back to the country from Mecca. When my mother came, she went to the mortuary and she saw the body of father. A magnificent funeral was held for my father by his comrades and the people. They had given a frame of his photo to each of the family members. When we were in Ghazvin cemetery, they gave a piece of poem to me to read for my martyred father. It was a beautiful poem. 24 years have passed since that time, but I will never forget this poem that I read for my father. The poem was as follows: “My father, you are my companion and sweeter than my life, where did you go? Why did you go?”
Regarding the final visit with her father, she said: It was 2 days before martyrdom of my father that we went to Ghazvin together with a bus. We ate our dinner with grandmother. I fell asleep near tablecloth, during midnight when dad wanted to leave us, he came near my bed and he kissed my forehead and he put the blanket on me and then he left. I felt that moment properly. It was the final kissing of my father on my forehead. In my opinion each of the behavioral and social characteristics of my father can be outstanding and significant. His characteristics had been sourced from the innocent Imam and religious persons.
Salma Babayee regarding the martyrdom of her father said: I think when he was martyred, he made a great change for the society, friends and among the family members. But right now the society has been changed and it seems that the martyrdoms and sacrifices are done for nothing. Of course I think, such considerations and outlooks could be superficial. For sure after a while, the society will understand and realize the real meaning of sacrifice and martyrdom.
Regarding the characteristics of martyr Babayee, she said: He would awaken me to pray in the morning. After that we would recite Koran verses together. I define the characteristics of my father to my son, Mohammad Hussein. When I see him, based on the definition and knowledge that I have regarding my father, I remember my father. I think that his characteristics are the same as my father’s characteristics. I have missed my father so much. For me being the daughter of martyr Abbas Babayee is a pride for me. But I as an Iranian persons, without considering this issue that I’m his daughter, when I review his behavioral characteristics, I enjoy myself so much. Dignity, humility, faith and courage of martyr Abbas Babayee are admirable. It is a really big deal that humans to ignore their selves. In fact during Ramadan month we try to fight with the self by not eating anything and try to keep our belief and to support it. My father was always the same as this. It was really important that he had got a great position, but still he would live simply in a small house. He would always consider himself a few steps lower in positions.
Salma Babayee emphasized: I like to the same as my father so much and to consider him as a model for myself. There are a few people who are the same as my father. This sentence that says great men rise by the hands of great women that is really true. My father was a religious and successful man. He had a spouse that she would always assist him in his life. After the martyrdom of father, my mother continued his path. She spent all of her lifetime for children. So here I should thank the sacrifices of my mother as well. Even though 24 years have passed since the martyrdom of my father, but still she cries for her husband. Commitment and interest to him and his ambitions is really valuable and admirable for me.
She talked about the type of behavior of his father for her and her brothers as follows: My father was a kind person and he had a good moral. He never did something in my life that makes me unhappy. Of course sometimes he would argue with me; but eventually he would return after five minutes and we would talk about good things. He would never allowed that our wrath to be more than five minutes.
The daughter of martyr Babayee added: My father had a good behavior. He would not spend his time with us so much. We would see each other usually during late nights and most of the times I was in bed, but he would come near my bed and he would pat me and kiss me. In the mornings, he would awaken me and we would pray together. After that we would recite Koran and most of the times he would read the Sura of YASIN.
Salma Babayee outlined: It is dependent that what we consider the fulfillment of religion; but I myself think that not only the authorities, but also all the persons have not done their responsibilities and duties so well. Of course we are good, because we are the family of martyr Babayee and we are respected and honored so much. But there are some other martyrs families who are not famous and they are not respected so much. In fact the authorities do not pay attention to them so much. Of course there are several things that the humans can neither write nor express, maybe it needs times that such issues to be resolved.
There are many poor people who do not have foods to eat; while there are many rich and wealthy persons and also there are some greedy persons who think even if they get the whole world, still it is less for them and maybe they think that they can take all of their belongings to the resurrection world.
She emphasized: My father lived in the environment socially and most of the persons tried to get something that be useful for their future; but though my father could do the same activity and if he wanted to do it, he could reach many successes in this field, but my father would fight with his self. On the other hand my father lived so simply and he would always consider himself as an ordinary ranked man and it was in a situation that getting a rank in the air force was really significant for the personnel and it could cause prides and greatness for them.
Salma Babayee regarding the role of mother said: The mothers are always generous and kind and I think my mother was the same and she did many sacrifices to educate us, so now it is our duty to protect her and to support her. Even though tolerating much difficulties and pains is really hard; but I myself observed this characteristic in my mother and maybe the other mothers do not have the same characteristics.
She also expressed a memory regarding her childhood as follows: At that time we had a white and black color television at home. Some day they brought a big and colorful television for us. My father would never accept such gifts. My mother urged so much that we (me and my brothers) should not open the box of this television and to use it. We opened the television and we started watching cartoon. When our father arrived home, he hugged us, he told us that there are a family who have lost their men in the war. You should give this television to them, so that they can enjoy themselves by having a television. Though we were little children, but we realized what our father told us and we accepted his words too.
By Homa Zohali